Lately I have been having conversations about relationships and what can happen in that territory. The thought has been floating around that there can be a tendency to forget about self, who am I, and what do I want.

It's sounds like this can manifest in good, medium and bad relationships. Each of these types of relationships could likely get their own piece of analyzing.

I'm contemplating what happens when you are in a good relationship, are comfortable with yourself and where you are in life. Part of my joy at being in a relationship is the melding and merging. I take care of the part of myself that I want to keep strong. Maybe its important to keep it seperate in some way? Some aspects of me have softened-I don't see that as losing anything, I see it as a happy evolution. I now practice taming the need to be in charge, most days. Other areas have developed, and become stronger with nurturing and support of another, confidence has been built. I now handle power tools quite adequately, thank you very much. I have expanding parts of me that had yet to be tapped. Looking a little deeper at emotions, trying new things.

The harder I try to hold on to who I was, the more apparent it becomes that its no longer who I am. And its okay.

It doesn't feel bad, degrating or demeaning. It feels exciting to know that its all about me, some of him, and alot of us. 

 

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